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Top Ten Halloween costume predictions for 2013!
By The Atlanta Banana, October 2013
The top ten Halloween costume predictions for 2013 include ideas for both men and women. According to an Oct. 7 Paste report, the top ten Halloween costume ideas for this year will likely leave you laughing.
While some of these top ten Halloween costume 2013 picks are available online for a price, others you will have to be more creative with. Of course, the creative costume ideas will actually allow you to possibly save money and get a good deal while donning a cute and memorable costume this Halloween season.
The number 10 costume is the “Red Equal Sign”
Rememebr when the Human Rights Campaign's symbol for equality took over your social networks? Bring it back with a simple red and pink outfit for Halloween.
The number 9 costume is “Stefon”
2013 marked Bill Hader's exit from "Saturday Night Live" and with him went our favorite "Weekend Update" correspondent. Get the look by layering Ed Hardy Tees, wearing silver rings on both hands and constantly acting like you can't believe what you just said.
The number 8 costume is "What Does The Fox Say?" .
The most entertaining music video of 2013 has nothing to do with licking hammers or riding a wrecking ball but everything to do with dressing up like a fox who loves to dance.
The number 7 costume is Pope Francis.
Perhaps one of the most popular Catholic Popes in years, you can start with your traditional Pope garb, but finish with an LGBTQ-friendly twist.
The number 6 costume is Paula Deen the Racist.
Once you've got your grey wig, flowy blouse and Southern drawl down, it's up to you to decide how much social commentary you want to add.
The number 5 costume is Miley Cyrus at the 2013 VMAs.
There are several options to achieve this look. One is the infamous "Twerk" costume, which retailers can't seem to keep on shelves long enough, so don't expect to get a great deal on this look. You can get this look for less by donning a "Twerk" t-shirt and letting everybody's imagination fill in the rest.
Number 4 on the list is "Breaking Bad's" Walter White.
This costume actually should not set you back too much. You simply need a button down shirt, brown leather jacket, some spectacles, a beard, and the hat. Many of these things could be found in your own closet, borrowed, or purchased on the cheap at thrift stores.
At number 3, you will find Jamie Lannister from "Game of Thrones."
The most important element of this costume is the missing hand, which will be somewhat difficult to recreate, but if you are imaginative you should be able to figure out a way to lose your hand for the night. This is another costume that has the potential to be affordable as long as you are lucky in your thrift shop finds.
The number 2 hottest 2013 Halloween costume is Robin Thicke and his naked girls.
Interestingly, if you have an old Beetle Juice costume laying around, you can reuse this to become Thicke for 2013. Other ways to become this hot 2013 figure are to wear a snazzy suit with an unbuttoned shirt, aviator sunglasses, and surround yourself with nearly nude women who attend to your every need. Who wouldn't enjoy dressing up like Robin Thicke? (Hint, combine this with the Miley Cyrus "Twerk" costume to have a fun couple's costume this season).
Finally, the number 1 (and funniest) hot Halloween costume for 2013 is pregnant Kim Kardashian.
You likely remember Kim's unfortunate floral couch inspired Met Gala dress. This should be quite easy to recreate using thrift shop items, so you can have a funny costume on the cheap this Halloween.
There you have it, the top ten Halloween costume prediction for 2013. Which costume are you going to dress up as this year? Trick or treat!
Researched and edited by Dr. Kelly Brennan for the Terry Boyd’s World Radio Show on AM 860 KPAM, October 09, 2013. Portland. Oregon.
A Real Man Responds: “Yes, We ARE Like Toddlers,” Five Lessons Women Can Learn About Men Through The Way They Raise Toddlers.By David Wygant
Last week,one of my colleagues wrote an article explaining that there’s a lot women can actually learn about men by observing toddlers.
That got me thinking: Are men really just giant babies? Should we be walking around wearing diapers instead of Levi’s? Should we be breast fed multiple times a day? The other day in my blogwe debated about how mature men really are.
Well, maybe not the diapers, but a lot of men have breast envy, so they certainly would love to be soothed by the boob. Let’s talk about five lessons women can learn about men through the way they raise toddlers.
Five lessons women can learn about men through the way they raise toddlers:
1. “I’m frustrated!”
When we get frustrated, whether it’s while driving, trying to fix the internet connection, not having our turn with the remote control, at some point we’ll want to use brute force to try to get things our way. When that happens, what we really want is be soothed, just like a little toddler. So the next time your man is having a toddler attack, walk over to him with a little love. Rub the back of his neck and head and tell him to calm down, everything’s going to be OK. Studies have shown that enough men will magically calm down with a woman’s touch.
2. “I want it, now!”
When men want something, they want it, and they want it now. Just like a toddler. Put a man in a hardware store, a sporting goods store, or a car dealership. All of a sudden, he sees the shiny tool kit or the brand new Mercedes and thinks to himself, I want that. Even if he can’t afford it, it’ll stay on his mind. Men are toy-obsessed. So just like a little toddler, you have to take him by the hand and tell them in order to get that car, that tool, that new sports gear, he needs to be a good boy and work a little harder so he can get it on his special day, maybe his birthday. Your man needs you to pull him away just like a little toddler so he doesn’t make a mistake and buy something he can’t afford.
3. “Getting him dressed”
Just like a toddler, a man sometimes needs a little help getting dressed. When your guy leaves the house for work and he hasn’t tucked the back of his shirt in, or he thinks he looks presentable going out to dinner in his old college sweatshirt and a ball cap, sometimes you need to lead him by the hand, lay out the clothes he needs to wear, and help him put them on just like a toddler. If a toddler dressed himself, he’d walk around with his shirt hanging over his head, a diaper half on, and his shoes flopping all over the place.
4. “I want my drinks!”
Just like a toddler needs milk, men need their drinks. Whether it’s beer, water, or Gatorade, when a man is craving a drink and doesn’t have it, he starts getting grumpy and irritable. The next time your man needs a drink and he’s getting irritated and short-tempered, put his favorite drink in a glass, hand it to him, and watch his eyes light up and his temperament calm down.
5. “Learning to clean up”
Leave a man alone in the house for a weekend, and 48 hours later you come home and it looks like a bomb went off. Leave a toddler alone in the room, and 30 minutes later it looks like a bomb went off. A man needs constant attention like a toddler. A man needs discipline. He needs to be told exactly how the house is supposed to look when you get back.
Before you leave for business or go away with the girls, lay down the ground rules and tell him, “Please leave the house in the same condition that you found it. Don’t leave beer, poker chips, or potato chips all over the coffee table. If you’re going to have your other toddler men over for a visit, make sure all of you pitch in at the end of the night to clean up.”
You have to teach your toddler man how to clean the room, because it is all about repetition. Practice by having him help you clean the room first, turn it into a song, make it fun, and give him a reward after the chores are done.
These are five lessons that you can learn from toddlers in order to keep your relationship running smoothly, to make your man feel loved and nurtured, and to have him feel good about doing the little things like cleaning up after himself. Because just like a toddler, a man loves praise from his woman. After he cleans up, looks at you proudly and says, “I cleaned the kitchen,” don’t tell him what he missed. Tell him what a great job he did first. Say, “You are so good at cleaning the kitchen, it is amazing. Next time, honey, make me even more proud of you by making sure that you get all the knives and forks into the dishwasher too.” Just like a toddler. Lots of praise, soothing voices, and you’ll find yourself with an amazing domesticated man.
David Wygant is an internationally-renowned dating and relationship coach, author and speaker. He offers his advice as a lead writer for Yahoo! Personals and across television segments, newspapers and magazines, including MTV, The New York Times, MSNBC, Fox News, Cosmopolitan, Men's Health and E! Entertainment Television -- as well as on over 2,000 radio shows.
Researched and edited by Dr. Kelly Brennan for the Terry Boyd’s World Radio Show on AM 860 KPAM, Wednesday, October 02, 2013. Portland. Oregon.
We all want to be happy. But we have preconceived notions or beliefs about what needs to happen in our lives before we can be happy. Maybe we need to get that dream job. Or we need to have a million dollars in the bank. Or maybe we need to have the body of our dreams. Or we need the perfect relationship in order to be happy.
The list goes on. Yes, these things may indeed make us happy. Or then again, they may not.
When we set goals, we also have the tendency, once we’ve achieved them, to replace them with new goals. So you may find that you still don’t feel happy after you’ve achieved that “big goal” because you’ve just replaced it with an even bigger goal that you now need to achieve before you can be “truly happy”.
But by doing this, we stack the odds against ourselves. And if we play this game in order to find our happiness, then there’s a good chance that we’ll spend the rest of our lives chasing down the dreams that may ‘one day’ make us happy.
What if I told you that you don’t need any of those things in order to be happy in your life and that you can be happy today? The key to happiness is learning how to be happy right now, while you work on achieving your goals, instead of waiting until you’ve achieved those goals to be happy.
Here are 6 simple tips that you can start applying today:
1. Practice Daily Gratitude
No matter how bad we think our problems are, you can almost guarantee that there’s someone out there with much bigger problems than us. You may have heard the saying “I cried because I had no shoes, until I met a man who had no feet”. We need to be grateful for everything we have in our lives and practicing daily gratitude is a great way to train our minds to have an attitude of gratitude.
One technique for doing this is called “3 good things”, where every night, you simply write down three things that went well that day and casually reflect on why they happened. According to a study conducted by Seligman, Steen, Park and Peterson (2005), people who performed this daily exercise for a week, were happier and less depressed at the one-month follow up.
So start making your “3 good things” list today. Start a “gratitude journal.”
2. Be Present Both Mentally & Physically
Whatever you’re doing, make sure that both your mind and body are present. Don’t eat dinner with your family while you’re thinking about work. Don’t do work, while you’re thinking about what you’ll do this weekend. Always be present and let your mind focus 100% on what you’re doing.
If you’re having dinner with your spouse or partner, then try not to think about anything else but enjoying dinner with them. Even if you’re doing something as simple as drinking a glass of water, you can be present. Enjoy the moment and taste of the water as you sip it slowly. Try to find at least one situation every day where you can practice being present.
Simply start by focusing on your breathing. Focus, slow down and appreciate being in the moment. Remember, what you focus on you’ll get or become.
3. Stop Resisting What You Can’t Control
Stop resisting the things in your life that you can’t control and aren’t the way that you want them to be. Stop worrying about what other people do or say. Start accepting things for how they are, regardless of whether you think it’s right or wrong. Accept it as a fact.
Let’s say that you are frustrated because a work colleague isn’t doing what you think they should be doing. The more you think about that situation, the more frustrated you get. You give them feedback. Maybe you argue with them. But the situation doesn’t improve or maybe it gets even worse.
So you have a choice — you can keep resisting or you can accept the situation without judgement. You simply acknowledge it as a fact. There is no right or wrong. It’s just the current reality. When you do this, the resistance starts to melt away and the negative emotions inside your head and heart also start to disappear.
Identify one situation where you feel you have some resistance and simply accept that situation for what it is.
4) Avoid Negative People & Situations
Another cause of negative emotions and unhappiness are certain people or situations. You probably already know who those people are — they are the ones who seem to only see the negative side to every situation. They are often pessimistic, angry, critical and rarely have anything constructive to say. These people not only create unhappiness for themselves, but they also often drag down others around them by spreading this negative thinking ‘poison’.
If you want to be happy, you have to avoid these people and situations as much as possible. Unfortunately, that’s not always so easy, since these people are often our friends or family members. So if you can’t completely avoid these people, then it’s worth planning ahead and deciding how you’ll deal with them in future situations. The next time you find them being negative, you could either politely tell them that you’d prefer not to discuss that particular topic with them and change the subject. Or you could try to guide them into more positive thinking by asking them questions such as “how do you think you could solve that problem?”.
Don’t allow negative people or situations to also drag you down into unhappiness.
5) Accept 100% Responsibility For Your Life
If we want to be happy, then we have to stop blaming others for what happens in our lives. We need to stop seeing ourselves as victims. I have a family member who I love very much, but she is constantly blaming other people and situations for everything in her life that she’s not happy with. She sees herself as a victim and feels helpless about changing things.
In order to be happy, we have to take full responsibility for everything that happens in our life. When we take full responsibility, we take back control of our life and start to acknowledge that our thoughts and actions create the results in our life, not other people or situations. When we take back control of our life, we stop being victims. Instead we feel empowered to start creating a better life for ourselves.
Be honest with yourself, are you accepting full responsibility for what happens in your life?
6) Be of Service To Others.
One really powerful way to increase your happiness is to focus on helping others. You can give money to charity — but there are more fulfilling ways of helping others.
Instead of giving money, give your time. Get involved with a charity or donate a few hours to help with a local community project. Or just perform small random acts of kindness with no expectation of getting anything back e.g. help a struggling mother dealing with her kids and bags of groceries. Or buy a coffee for the person standing in line behind you.
According to Sonja Lyubomirsky, (a professor of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside and author of The How of Happiness), research shows that almost any type of random act of kindness boosts happiness. So make a habit of performing at least one small random act of kindness every week or every day!.
So if you want to feel happier in the present moment, then start by choosing one of these 6 tips and take action today. At the same time, keep working on your goals, but don’t rely on them alone to make you happy. Choose to be happy right now. As self-help author and motivational speaker Tony Robbins says “there’s a huge difference between achieving to be happy and happily achieving it”.
Omer Khan is a husband, father and creator of the Relax Focus Enjoy blog. He’s passionate about personal productivity and helping people to create more time to do what they love. He lives with his family in the ‘sunny’ Seattle area. Pick up your free e-book “Recharge Your Life” when you visit Relax Focus Enjoy.
Research and edited by Dr. Kelly J. Brennan for Terry Boyd’s World Radio Show on AM 860 KPAM, Portland Oregon. September 25, 2013.
8 Reasons Why Women Lose Respect For Men. By AskMen Editors, GirlsAskGuys.com, DateHookUp.com and PsychologyToday.com
Why did the girl you were dating, the girl who seemed like she might actually fit into your life, suddenly disappear? Maybe she stopped returning your calls after a few dates you thought were cool, and now you really have no clue what you did wrong.
Unless you just really didn't hit it off and you're totally oblivious -- or she actually has a boyfriend -- you did do something wrong. And that something might be one of these six reasons why she could have lost interest. Make sure that next time, you're prepared.
8. Having bad grammar.
This includes text message grammar, spelling mistakes, tYpiNG LiKe tHiS (do people do that anymore?). Speak to me like I am a human being. Proper use of language shows a man’s intelligence and that can be sexy for some women.
This guy I went on one date with started IMing me every day, tried to talk for hours, wanted to see me a lot, etc. Most women like it when a man calls her fo0llowing a date but constant phone calls, texting or emails may just show that you don't have that much going on in your life.
Complaining about things excessively... without doing anything about it. It’s understandable that when things go wrong like that, a man might want to talk about his problems with his woman, but when he whines and complains like a victim without looking for solutions, a woman’s respect for him will quickly dwindle.
Getting angry, ceasing all contact (in some cases when there may have been a friendship beforehand), being or acting irritating and annoying continually.
If a woman is clearly intoxicated and seemingly incapable of sound judgment, you don't try to make a move. A real man would NOT take advantage of a woman intoxicated but would treat her with respect and help her.
2. Belittling Her in Public
Some men will belittle their woman in front of their friends or family in a way that she feels is cruel and sincerely harmful to her confidence and sense of pride and comfort in front of others. When a woman knows that her man doesn't respect her and that he doesn't “have her back,” so to speak, she will usually begin trying to undermine him or disrespect him in front of others.
Being able to rely on you to be truthful and live with integrity is one of the most important things to a woman when in a relationship with you. It doesn’t matter if it’s a “little white lie” to “keep out of trouble with her” or a major fib that, if discovered, will have life-altering ramifications, most women won’t tolerate their man routinely being dishonest. In fact, once your woman has caught you lying, she will never be able to fully rely on you again. She will not be able to see you as her “rock” or her man of stone and her respect for you will diminish.
The Five Respect Needs of Men:
1. Respect his judgment.
2. Respect his abilities.
3. Respect in communication.
4. Respect in public.
5. Respect in our assumptions.
Researched and edited by Dr. Kelly Brennan for the Terry Boyd’s World Radio Show on AM 860 KPAM. Portland, Oregon. September 18, 2013.
The Main Reason Women Don't Want to Have Sex. By Evelyn Resh for eHarmony.com, March 11, 2013
This is so widespread that publications as diverse as Psychology Today, The Atlantic Monthly, The New York Times, and blogs galore are granting more than just a few column inches for stories on the topic. Given the time and analysis devoted to this problem you’d think there would be a diversity of causative factors. Yet, the majority of women today are not interested in sex because sex has become just one more thing on their “to do” list. Just like baking 100 cupcakes at midnight for the PTO, laundry and lunches, or answering emails way after office hours, today’s modern woman is so overworked in the home and on the job that sex has become one more thing to accomplish and there’s nothing pleasurable or appealing about it.
Women feel exhausted by and angry about responsibilities they’ve assumed (or are hoisted on them) and resent the fast-paced living that so many of us have become slaves to. The combination knocks their libido right out of them. Whether a woman encourages the chase before marriage or not, once the knot is tied and the kids come in, chaste becomes her new normal.
The modern woman who has earned her stripes in the workforce and mothering is especially at risk. While saying “I do” was originally intended as a lifelong commitment to her mate — sex included — many brides soon shift their focus from their sweetheart onto their achievements out in the world and inside the home on kids. Being the best at the office, best at mothering, and best friend while working on having the best figure, home, and fashions shifts women’s priorities from the pleasures of intimate partnership to the demands of work, kids, friendships, and then maybe, and only if all else is done, their lover.
Defining HER self-worth
What’s really behind this and why is being the presumed “best” of anything so important to women, especially when it’s draining their desire for sex? What I have discovered in my work is that women often have two primary ways by which they determine their self-worth on any given day. The first is, “Have I had a good food and exercise day?” and the second, “Have I done enough for others (especially my kids?)” This kind of thinking and living is exhausting, burdensome, generates heaps of anger, and robs women of their libido. If women would be more willing to settle for sane living over the assumed perfect, “I am the BEST at EVERYTHING full life”, then sexual desire is more likely to be present.
HER Multitask Badge of Honor
Consider the pride that so many women take in their ability to multitask. They wear it like a badge of honor despite the increased risks for error and the distraction it fuels. We seem to have forgotten the value of giving things our undivided attention and the aphrodisiac properties of giving and receiving undivided attention from our intimate partner. My personal and professional experience has taught me that keeping sex alive involves maintaining your focus on pleasurable living versus industrious, beehive activity. This is a disciplined practice of sorts, like getting enough sleep.
Changing HER focus
This doesn’t mean pulling out your calendars to schedule your “hot time” on a weekly basis. But it does mean changing your focus from perfection and accomplishment to embracing pleasure in life as a healthy and worthwhile pursuit. This demands reducing your expectations of yourself, your children, and your mate and renaming pleasure as a health practice, not just an indulgence or reward for what you’ve accomplished. The more effort women make to weave pleasurable interludes into their daily lives, the easier it will be for them to reclaim their libido as one of the best pleasures of all.
When we make this change, the fatigue and anger lessens, physical and emotional strength improves, and the ability and willingness to seek sexual intimacy (instead of running from it) begins to reappear. We all have times in life when we’re busier than usual and can’t avoid an overload of daily deadlines, multiple tasks, and, too much to do. But if the majority of your time is spent at a more leisurely, realistic pace, then you’ll roll with these episodes and return to calmer waters where your interest in sex will resurface. The key to keeping your interest in sex alive and well is raising the status of pleasure in general while denouncing the overly busy life.
What can SHE do to get back HER desire for sex?
Studies have shown that many women are able to rekindle her sexual desire by finding HER adventure. What is her adventure? It’s different for each woman but I assure you women have an adventure. Some women know what their adventure is and go for it however, many haven’t yet discovered their adventure because they are so busy with the high demands of life and the expectation for perfection placed on them by society. Women need to get out of their surroundings to be able to experience their adventure – do something new and different; it’s all about triggering the senses and making the connection to the pleasure part of the brain. And don’t forget, undivided attention is a strong aphrodisiac and there is no such thing as perfect. So women, relax more, live in the moment and don’t worry about tomorrow, don’t worry about perfection, find your adventure and your desire for sex won’t feel like one more thing on the “to do” list.
Evelyn Resh, MPH, CNM, is a certified sexuality counselor with The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists and the author of Women, Sex, Power & Pleasure: Getting The Life (And Sex) You Want.
Research and edited by Dr. Kelly J. Brennan for Terry Boyd’s World Radio Show on AM 860 KPAM, Portland Oregon. September 11, 2013.
Sexual Intelligence: What’s your S.Q.
What's "Normal" Between The Sheets?
By Marty Klein, PhD
It's not important to be sexually "normal"... in fact, pursuing "normal" sex is often destructive. Here’s what is “normal”: adults have sex primarily when they’re tired. This shapes the quality, content, and frequency of the experience. Most adults save their “prime time” for things that are either more important (raising their kids, working after hours, maintaining their health, handling crises) or more reliably satisfying (watching TV, going out, sharing hobbies, playing around on Facebook).
Not having much energy is one aspect of “normal sex” that most people don’t want. But many adults seem to believe that most sex will inevitably take place when they’re not at their best, without considering the consequences of this kind of sex life -- that it may become routine, not involve much time, lose its playfulness, and that using contraception or a lubricant may seem like too much trouble.
If we think of “normal” as common, typical, and accepted as “the way things are,” this is what “normal sex” actually looks like:
• Awkwardness and self-consciousness are common.
• Communication is limited.
• Neither partner laughs or smiles much.
• One or both partners are obsessively concerned about performance.
• One or both are unsure what their partner likes.
• One or both tolerate what they dislike, hoping that it will stop soon.
• Masturbation is kept secret.
• There’s difficulty using birth control without embarrassment or conflict.
• Desire requires a perfect environment.
• Sex is sometimes physically painful.
• He believes that “her orgasm problem reflects on me.”
• She believes that “his erection problem reflects on me.”
Also, whether young or old, gay or straight, male or female, when American adults have sex, they frequently:
• Are self-conscious or self-critical about their body.
• Don’t feel as close to their partner as they’d like.
• Don’t feel confident that they’re going to have a good time (which is why they don’t do it more frequently).
• Are concerned about performance -- either their own or their partner’s.
• Feel inhibited about communicating what they want, don’t want, feel, or don’t feel.
Health problems are also frequently part of “normal” sex -- because normal people have health problems. So, are you starting to look pretty “normal”? Are you starting to realize this might not be the right goal?
The awkwardness and emotional isolation described above are what most people get when they try to have “normal” sex. And that is why your vision of sex matters! So let’s spend the rest of our conversation exploring why it’s not important to be sexually “normal” and why, in fact, pursuing “normal” sex is often destructive.
Of course, by “normal” sex most people don’t mean the reality I’ve just described, but a romanticized vision of perfect performance, perfect environment, and nothing too novel or psychologically challenging. The only thing normal about that kind of sex is the fact that so many people aspire to it, and so few people have it. (And here’s a secret every sex therapist knows: even when people get this kind of sex, they’re not necessarily satisfied with it.)
So if, like so many other people, you’ve been pursuing the wrong thing (“normal” sex), you need a new way to think about sex. Although most people assume it’s logical to have a performance orientation (how many times per week, how many minutes before orgasm), that’s only one way to look at sex. And it’s exactly the wrong way! See the chart below of what “normal sex” brings:
Sexual intelligence is being in tune with the sexuality of your relationship as a couple and as individuals. Here are 7 steps to increased sexual intelligence:
1. Know your own sexual desires and needs.
Too many individuals in relationship today don’t really know what they desire or need. The first key to increased sexual intelligence is understanding the difference between your desires (what you want) and your needs (what you must have). When an individual knows what she/he desires and/or wants then they are able to seek it out from the other partner. Too many individuals “think” they know their sexuality but in reality, the don’t.
2. Know your partner’s sexual desires and wants.
As stated earlier, too many people in relationship never truly seek out and work on knowing their partner’s sexual desires and wants. If you were to find yourself on the Newlywed Game and you were asked to make a list of 5 sexual desires and 5 sexual wants of your partner in specific details – could you? Too increase your sexual intelligence experiment with different touches, massages, caresses, kisses, places to kiss – in other words, go exploring to make the discoveries! After exploring on your own, discuss with your partner their sexual desires and wants. Many times your partner will simply “tell” you what they want or need.
3. Know and understand the climate of the relationship.
Another way to increase sexual intelligence is to know what to mood is in the relationship. Once you get a feel for the mood, understand the mood. If she’s happy she will probably be easy to get into a playful interaction that will get her into the sexual mood. However, if she’s grouchy, try to understand what caused her to get grouch – maybe the kids are too much or school and other responsibilities are getting her down, see what you can do to lighten the mood and get her in the sexual mood.
4. Look for the routines and avoid them.
Nothing will kill the sex life of couple is the daily mundane routine. To increase sexual intelligence observe what your routines are and change it up! Do the complete opposite of what you are doing! If he tends to lead the sexual play, have her lead and be in control. And don’t “ask” your partner what the routines are that’s just plain laziness. Work on observing your routines and then you’ll be able to make the right changes that you have discovered that leads to higher sexual intelligence.
5. Recognize the “windows of opportunity” and take them!
Another way to increase your sexual intelligence is recognizing the windows of opportunity and taking them. If your partner goes to the bedroom to go to sleep before you – this is a window of opportunity – seize the moment (Carpe diem)! When they are showering be in tuned to when they finish the shower and be there with a towel in hand, if you catch my drift. Look for the windows of opportunity!
6. Be “other-orientated” of your significant other always and in all places.
A strong way to increase your sexual intelligence it to be “other-orientated” of your partner all day long and in all places! When you are in tune with your significant other they will mirror the same back to you.
7. Understand your relationship is unique and special to avoid “normal sex”.
The final way to increase sexual intelligence is to understand that your relationship is unique and special. This will help you both from “normal sex”. If you think about it, what is normal sex? Where’s the standard or bar that measures normal sex? Recognizing that your relationship is unique and special will free you from the mundane normal sex
These seven steps will help increase your sexual intelligence and will help you be more in tune with yourself, your partner and your overall relationship. You can have long lasting and fulfilling relationship fill will excitement and best of all – not “normal sex” but GREAT SEX!
Research and edited by Dr. Kelly J. Brennan for Terry Boyd’s World Radio Show on AM 860 KPAM, Portland Oregon. September 04, 2013.