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3/25/15

10 Weird Things Men Love In Women

Want to make everyday a memorable and romantic day. Just know your men and see how beautifully your life changes. Your love life will become intense and hot and your man will be yours only. Spend some in discovering the qualities that he likes and make your love life a wonderfully irresistible experience.

Here are 10 Weird Things Men Love In Women or you can say 10 weird things that men get attracted to:

1. Attire:

They just love women in baggy and casual outfit, walking in style and tremendously beaming with confidence.

2. No make-up:

Usually men are not attracted to heavily painted girls. They love the natural and make-up free look. They rarely pay attention to smokey eyes and dark lipsticks. So ladies do not waste precious time and money and just be natural.

3. Lively wit:

It is not physical contact that can only draw men towards you. Your vivacious wit and sharp humor can do wonders in attracting men towards you. So be smart and witty. Simply crack a joke and get men wooed.

4. Lingerie:

The weirdest thing that men like is the lingerie that does not match. Do not just run after a paired bra and panties, show that you are not prepared and see how hot and desired he will be.

5. Sexy curves:

Curvy is definitely sexy. Flat and skinny figures do not attract men. Love handles and curves never fail to get noticed.

6. Intelligence:

Traits like intelligence, confidence, decisive nature, sexual openness and emotional maturity attract men as they love to be close to intelligent people rather than dumb and beautiful women. Beauty with brains is appreciated. Go ahead and flaunt your real self. Mere display of beauty is not sufficient enough. Show your sensuality and express your wildest fantasies because that is what men like.

7. Baggy tee at bedtime:

Sounds strange, but that is what men love to see a woman in. Men like women in casuals and want to explore. They do not get turned on by women in formals.

8. Eye Contact:

Never shy away from your man. Just put your point emphatically and look into his eyes. Eye contact makes you irresistible and stronger.

9. Unkempt hair:

Women think that men are attracted by properly knit hair which is not true in real sense. Unkempt hairs attract men as they simply love bed-hair and kohl smudged eyes.

10. Orgasm:

Women believe that orgasm should not be expressed before men. This is absolutely false, displaying orgasm is an indication that a woman is strong enough to express her sexuality- something that men just long for.

Sexuality is an intimate and personal thing and should be expressed instead of being bottled up.

So when you look at the love of your life, what turn’s you on?

Researched and edited by Dr. Kelly Brennan for the Terry Boyd’s World Radio Show on AM 860 KPAM, March 25, 2015. Portland. Oregon.

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10 Signs Your Marriage Is In Trouble

By Allison Cohen, M.A., MFT, Relational Expert

We've all heard the dauntingly horrible statistic: 68 percent of marriages end in divorce. No one wants to be a cliché, and everyone wants to find themselves amongst the 32 percent that beat the odds.

What if you could identify the biggest indicators before it was too late? What if you had the chance to turn it all around? Would you seize the moment, even if it meant taking an unpleasant look at the reality of your relationship and digging in to repair the damage? 

Avoid marital distress by learning to recognize these warning signs! Look at the indicators below to see where you fall on the spectrum of marital turmoil:

1. You become a one-woman consulting firm.

You used to ask your partner for their opinions on a variety of subjects. Everything from what you should do about your difficult boss to what plans you'll make for the weekend. Those days are gone, and you find yourself making decisions without consideration for their feelings or how it might affect them.

2. You pull out your scorecard and start tallying. 

The ease of give and take has been replaced with playing "Tit for Tat" and you actively keep mental notes for how much you are contributing versus how much your partner isn't.

3. You anoint yourself king/queen of the castle.

In a successful relationship, no one person's needs are more important. Your desires are equally considered and equal attempts are made to bring them to fruition. However, now that there is stress, resentment and tension, you make your needs priority one.

4.You move from teammates to roommates.

Teammates work in tandem to get goals accomplished. They share ideas for how to succeed and envision home and life plans together. Roommates take on singular projects with no respect or thought towards the other person in the house. They cleantheir space. They do their laundry. Their separate plans become your separate lives.

5. You pull out your needle and start jabbing.

Anyone in a long-term relationship knows their partner well enough to have a keen awareness of their hot buttons. In days past, you accidentally pressed them, learned from your mistakes and vowed not to repeat them. Today, you press them with full awareness, and you like it.

6. You break up with your girlfriend/boyfriend.

When you two were happy and in love, you "dated" each other. You did all the little things that kept the romance alive. You sent the sweet text in the middle of the day. You brought home the dessert from that little café you know they love. You made an effort to keep up your appearance. Now, you see your mate as a ball and chain instead of the hot date you used to roll out the red carpet for.

7. You move your love tank to someone else's truck.

Whether it's emotional or physical, you are reaching out to anyone and everyone other than your mate to connect with and feel connected to.

8. You kidnapped cupid and you're holding him for ransom.

People joke that you stop having sex when you get married because you no longer 'have to.' But the truth is that often times, people stop having sex when they start losing the positive feelings towards their mate. No one wants to have sex with the person they see as an impediment to their happiness. Even if you still have sexual feelings, you stop pursuing them to punish, play games or make a point to your partner. 

9. Words are saved for scrabble.

Gone are the days of staying up late, talking. Conversations with your mate seem futile and exhausting. Instead, you use as few words as possible to convey your sentiments and conversations devolve into what needs to get done around the house or who is running carpool tomorrow.

10. You checked out of your relationship and into your mental hotel.

In happier times, your partner was your refuge because they were your best friend, your comfort and your joy. As tension sets in, you blindly interact with your mate without giving them your presence of mind. Your mindfulness has been replaced with fantasies of your new life, away from your partner. 

If you're determinedly shaking your head in agreement, that's a flashing yellow light that trouble is brewing. No one said it would be a snap, but then again, nothing worth having comes easy. You only have a few finite opportunities to get your marriageout of trouble before that yellow light turns red.

Researched and edited by Dr. Kelly Brennan for the Terry Boyd’s World Radio Show on AM 860 KPAM, March 11, 2015. Portland. Oregon.

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12 Random facts About Dating and Relationships

1.  The curve of the counter in a bar is designed so other customers can easily “check out” other customers. Bars also purposely place mirrors to help create a larger sense of place and to allow a person to scope out other people behind them.

2.  A man’s top dating fears include that a woman will come between him and his friends, won’t allow him free time, will turn out to be a stalker, won’t respect him, or will be too high maintenance.

3.  Five types of women that men tend to avoid are serial flirters, someone who talks about marriage too soon, clingy women, the party-girl, and a woman who talks too much or is drama queen.

4.  Over 50% of all singles in America have not had a date in more than two years.

5.  New York and Washington have the most state residents who are unmarried, 50% and 70%, respectively. Idaho and Utah have the most state residents who are married, 60% and 59%.

6.  A woman can increase the likelihood of a man approaching her if she uncrosses her arms, makes subtle eye contact, and smiles.

7.  In American society, when a man offers his date his palm face up, he is most likely deeply attracted to the woman. In fact, a human’s brain is wired to respond to hand gestures and hand shapes, though the brain’s response depends on the man or woman’s culture and ethnicity.

8.  When a man first approaches a woman, she will base 55% of her initial impression of him on his appearance and body language, 38% on his style of speaking, and 7% on what he actually says.

9.  If you want to create an instant link with a date, say his or her name at least twice in the conversation. This shows attentiveness and connectiveness.

10.  Body language studies show that revealing areas of the body that aren’t usually on display (such as the inner wrist, the inside of the upper arm, ankles, feet, inside calf muscle, and the nape of the neck) has an immediate effect on a date and shows an instant liking.

11.  Psychologists at the University of Pennsylvania studied data from over 10,000 speed daters and found that most people make a decision regarding a person’s attraction within three seconds of meeting.

12.  The online dating industry generates $1.8 billion per year and the matchmaker/dating coach business generates $260 million per year in the United States.

Researched and edited by Dr. Kelly Brennan for the Terry Boyd’s World Radio Show on AM 860 KPAM, March 04, 2015. Portland. Oregon.

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Top 10 Weird, Crazy, and Just Plain Bizarre Facts about Disney World!

It may come as no surprise that the number one wish for Make-A-Wish is a trip to Disney World. However, below are some things you may not have known aboout America's favorite playground. These facts range from shocking, to unbelievable, to just plain weird!

  1. Disney World has a staff of about 62,000 actors, crew, servicemen, etc. That is almost double the population of neighborhoods such as West Hollywood, Los Angeles!
  2. In acreage, all of The Walt Disney World Resort is roughly the size of San Francisco, but only about 35% of its 27,000 acres has been developed.
  3. Mickey Mouse has more than 290 different costumes he rotates threw. That’s enough wardrobe changes to make even diva Mariah Carey jealous!
  4. The staff of Disney World collectively does 18,890 loads of laundry every single day! Oh my tide!
  5. Ever lost something at Disney World? Well you would not be alone! Since 1971, there has been an estimated 1.65 million pairs of sunglasses turned into lost and found. Other figures for lost and found include an annual collection of 6,000 cell phones, 3,500 digital cameras, and 18,000 hats.
  6. The weirdest things ever found? There have been lost and found reports of a glass eye, a potty trainer, and a prosthetic leg. All three of which were eventually claimed!
  7. The biggest theme park is Disney’s Animal Kingdom, which covers 403 acres. The Tree of Life, located at the center of the park, is 14 stories high!
  8. Walt Disney had an apartment built inside of Cinderella's Castle that he intended to use as an apartment for his family and himself. When he died it was left unfinished but in 2006 it was turned into a deluxe suite given to a randomly chosen family every day.
  9. Inside the suite is 24-karat gold tile floors and a television designed to resemble the "magic mirror" from Cinderella.
  10. Main Street, USA is inspired by the hometown of Walt Disney located in Marceline Missouri.

Since Wheels for Wishes benefits Make-A-Wish, your donation can help send a lucky boy or girl to this crazy world of Disney! For more information visit our car donation home page to learn more about the car donation program or www.wish.org for more information on Make-A-Wish.

Researched and edited by Dr. Kelly Brennan for the Terry Boyd’s World Radio Show on AM 860 KPAM, February 25, 2015. Portland. Oregon.

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2/18/15

Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed. 

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.

People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them. When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honor at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

Credits: This article first appeared on inspirationandchai.com via Real Farmacy

Researched and edited by Dr. Kelly Brennan for the Terry Boyd’s World Radio Show on AM 860 KPAM. Portland, Oregon. February 18, 2015.

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10 Weird Valentine’s Day Facts

By Melissa Awesome February 10, 2013 3:40 PM

Ahh Valentine’s Day! You either love it or you hate it.  This coming Saturday is the day that some naked baby looking thing with wings will come and shoot you with an arrow shaped like a heart and make you fall in love! I mean seriously who came up with Cupid, and why is he so weird looking? Besides that check out these weird facts about heart day, whether you love or hate the holiday, I bet you’ll find these facts interesting!

1) Cupid was associated with Valentine’s Day because he was the son of Venus, the Roman god of love and beauty (So that’s who he is!)

2) 73% of American men buy flowers on Valentine’s Day while 15% of US women send flowers to themselves…awkward!

3) More than 650 million valentine cards are exchanged by children from ages 6-10 each year. Most of these cards are bought in the last 6 days leading up to Valentine’s Day.  Teachers receive more valentine cards than anyone else followed by children, moms, sweethearts, pets, and then dads. Over 1 billion Valentine’s Day cards are sent worldwide every year.

4) Penicillin, a popular treatment for venereal diseases was introduced on February 14, 1929. How romantic

5) Some people used to believe that if a woman saw a robin flying overhead on Valentine’s Day; it meant she would marry a sailor. If she saw a sparrow, she would marry a poor man and be very happy. If she saw a goldfinch, she would marry a millionaire.

6) King Henry VIII declared February 14th a holiday in 1537. Which is ironic considering he killed most of his wives because they didn’t give him a son (Later science found out that it’s actually the man’s sperm that determines the sex of the child…put that in your pipe and smoke it King Henry).

7) More than nine million pet owners are expected to buy gifts for their pets this Valentine’s Day. I mean I think my dog is cooler than a lot of people I know.  I wasn’t really planning on buying her a Valentine’s Day gift though, but now I feel pressured.  Thanks a lot Hallmark.

8) During the Middle Ages men and women would pick names out of a bowl and the person’s name they drew would be considered their Valentine.  They would wear that person’s name on their sleeve for a week.  This is where the saying wear your heart on your sleeve comes from.

9) The city in Italy where Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet lived, receives about 1,000 letters every year sent to Juliet on Valentine’s Day. Do people not realize that Romeo and Juliet aren’t real?

10) In the middle Ages, people believed that the first unmarried person of the opposite sex you met on the morning of St. Valentine’s Day would become your spouse. Remind me not to leave the house Saturday morning….

One last fact, in 1929 at the height of prohibition Al Capone ordered the killing of members of a rival gang run by Bugs Moran in Chicago on Valentine’s Day which became known as the St. Valentine’s Day Massacre.  Authorities were unable to find any real evidence to tie Capone to the crime and he was never arrested or tried for the murder of these seven men. Instead he served his time for tax evasion and later died of syphilis. I guess Capone could have use some penicillin.

Research and edited by Dr. Kelly J. Brennan for Terry Boyd’s World Radio Show on AM 860 KPAM, Portland Oregon.  February 11, 2015.

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10 really interesting but shocking facts about Facebook By Aseem Guarav

New Delhi: Facebook, over the past few years, has changed the conception of people about how we connect to each other. It’s growing popularity means that we no longer are confined to face-to-face interaction, but see ours and others in the number of people in ‘friends list.’ A simple click on the ‘unfriend’ option makes it easy to cut ties with someone who you have been very close to. The more people in your friends list, the more popular you are perceived to be.

Even in the friends list, we can segregate people into different categories, based on our closeness and level of formality with them. We have ‘family’, ‘best friends’, ‘not-so-close friends’, ‘relatives’ and ‘work colleagues’ lists. If due to geographical barriers, you cannot physically ‘poke a friend’, you can still do so in the world of Facebook and this subtle cue is somehow less offending in the virtual world. Facebook has altogether put a new meaning on the world of ‘virtual friendship’ where it doesn’t matter whether you have met the other person or not. 

Total number of monthly active users on Facebook is 1,310,000,000.  Total number of mobile users on Facebook is 680,000,000.  Google has 343 million users and twitter with 284 million users.  640,000,000 minutes spent on Facebook each month. 18 minutes spent on Facebook per visit daily.

Here’s a look at some quick facts interesting and shocking facts about the popular social network.

#10 The reason Facebook is blue: Zuckerberg is colorblind

According to The New Yorker, Zuckerberg is red-green colorblind, which means the color he can see best is blue. That also happens to be the color that dominates the Facebook website and mobile app.
"Blue is the richest color for me," he told the magazine. "I can see all of blue," he said in an interview.

#9 Hacking Facebook got this man hired

In 2006, a guy named Chris Putnam hacked into Facebook and made thousands of profiles look like MySpace profiles.  Facebook was so impressed they hired him.

#8 Facebook doesn't allow breastfeeding photos

Facebook was criticized by mothers when it yanked photos of breastfeeding babies that women had posted on their personal profiles because it deemed them a little too revealing.

In response to the terse notices alerting mothers that they were violating Facebook's decency policy, "lactivists" responded with a virtual nurse-in; 11,000 women posted photos of themselves breastfeeding and/or updated their profiles to read: "Hey, Facebook. Breastfeeding Is Not Obscene!" The pro-breastfeeding group has attracted over 250,000 members.

#7 Iceland used Facebook to rewrite its constitution!

In 2011, Iceland took the help of Facebook in rewriting its constitution. Two thirds of Iceland's population is on Facebook, so the constitutional council used Facebook to rewrite its constitution where citizens could use the social network to make their own suggestions, engage in online debates, or follow the proceedings in real-time.

#6 Steve Chen worked for Facebook

Steve Chen worked at Facebook for a few weeks before quitting because Mark Zuckerberg didn’t like his idea to add a new service in Facebook, it was called YouTube.

#5 Photo sharing

Mark Zuckerberg didn't want to add photo-sharing to Facebook, but Sean Parker convinced him to making Facebook the most popular photo-sharing site.

#4 Zuckerberg took "CEO lessons" in 2005

After employees and investors began lobbying for his replacement, Zuckerberg took "CEO lessons" in 2005 byXi Jinping's Big Yellow Book of Business.

# 3 Adding the number 4 to the end of Facebook’s URL will automatically direct you to Mark Zuckerberg’s wall.

Just in case you’re not familiar with the term “URL” - type in this web address: www.facebook.com/4. We’re not sure why Zuckerberg chose the fourth ID number instead of number 1, but this is a quick and easy way to get to the original Facebook wall that is owned by its creator.  Adding the numbers 5 or 6 to the end of the URL will take you to the respective profiles of Chris Hughes and Dustin Moskovitz, Facebook co-founders and Mark’s former college roommates.  Tacking a 7 onto the web address leads to the profile of Arie Hasit, another good friend of Zuckerberg from his days at Harvard.

 Basically, if you find an original bug within the Facebook software and system, they’ll reward you with up to $500. There are stipulations to the rules, though. They allow this as showing appreciation for their security researchers. One cannot disclose personal information about others and must give Facebook 24 hours in good faith to fix the issue before going public with the bug. Only one bounty per security bug is given.

#2 Acquisition

Facebook can't talk to Google about an acquisition without telling Microsoft first, thanks to Microsoft's 2007 investment

#1  Facebook has become so popular psychologists identified a new mental health disorder “Facebook Addiction Disorder” that has become one of the leading causes of divorce.

New research suggests that Facebook could be detrimental to your relationship status and your health. A study conducted by the Journal of Cyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking, found that people who use Facebook excessively (those who check hourly) are more likely to "experience Facebook Addiction Disorder (FAD) as well as Facebook–related conflict with their romantic partners, which then may cause negative relationship outcomes including emotional and physical cheating, breakup and divorce," according to a press release. In 2011, Facebook was cited as a reason for a third of divorces.

Researched and edited by Dr. Kelly Brennan for the Terry Boyd’s World Radio Show on AM 860 KPAM. Portland, Oregon. January 28, 2015.

 

 

1/21/15

10 Tips for Dealing with Bullies at Work

Dr. Michelle Callahan - Psychologist, TV Personality, Author

There's a new breed of female bullies cropping up in workplaces across the country. According to a nationwide poll by the Employment Law Alliance:

  • 45 percent of American workers say they've experienced workplace abuse.
  • 60 percent of workplace bullies are men while 40 percent of workplace bullies are women, and women bullies pick on other women more than 70 percent of the time.
  • Female bullies want to undermine, berate and intimidate the weaker women in their midst.
  • Being a target of a bully not only affects your work life, but can also affect your health, possibly causing headaches, loss of appetite, high blood pressure, insomnia, clinical depression, panic attacks and even PTSD.

Clearly workplace bullying is not something to be taken lightly. So why do some women do it?

  • They enjoy feeling powerful, especially when the other person doesn't stand up for herself. Also, women are often less confrontational when attacked. They tend to turn their backs on bad behavior in a way men might not.
  • They are threatened by the potential success of others, so they want to stop you before you outshine them or reveal their shortcomings.
  • They have a perfectionist or nit-picky personality combined with superiority about their skills and abilities.
  • They are affected by stress and pressure to be high performing, with more work to do and fewer people to do it.
  • They have mental health problems or a personality disorder.

How do you know whether you're being bullied, or simply dealing with a difficult boss or co-worker?

  • The clearest sign is that bullying is something that happens again and again -- it's not just your boss having a bad day every once and a while.
  • The abuse can include yelling; intimidating or humiliating behavior, like angry criticism and personal insults; or sabotage, whether it's vicious gossip or taking credit for someone else's work.
  • Generally, though, women aren't openly abusive; in fact, there's evidence that their style of bullying is usually subtler than men's.
  • Women are better at reading emotions, so they're good at little digs that most men wouldn't even register: the quick glare, or turning away and talking to someone else.

Ten Tips For Dealing With Being Bullied At Work

  1. Don't get emotional.Bullies take pleasure in emotionally manipulating people. Stay calm and rational to diffuse the situation.
  2. Don't blame yourself.Acknowledge that this is not about you; it's about the bully. Don't lose your confidence, or think you are incapable or incompetent. They are usually beating you at a mind game, not based on your actual work performance.
  3. Do your best work.The bully's behavior will seem more justified if you aren't doing your best work, or if you do things like come to work late, take long lunches, turn in work late, etc.
  4. Build a support network.Instead of allowing the bully to make you retreat into your office, work on building your relationships with your coworkers so that you have support and the bully doesn't turn them against you as well (although she will try and may even be successful).
  5. Document everything.Keep a journal (on your personal computer or in writing, but never leave it in the office) of what happened when (and who witnessed it) so that if you need to escalate this problem to Human Resources, you have the information you need to make your case. Keep emails and notes.
  6. Seek help.If you think you're being bullied, it's time to start talking to others who can help you manage this situation. Try a mentor, advocate, seasoned/experienced friend, even a legal advocate who specializes in bullying and inappropriate or discriminatory behavior in the workplace. Tread lightly when approaching your human resources department. They work for the company, not you, so you have to be careful about what you share depending on how well liked and supported your bully is within the organization. HR doesn't have the luxury of keeping everything you say confidential so don't treat a meeting with them like a counseling session where you should share everything you think/feel or assume that they can or will fix the problem for you.
  7. Get counseling.It will help you deal with the stress, especially if the bullying is already affecting your physical and mental health. You have to take care of yourself.
  8. Stay healthy.Maintain a healthy and balanced lifestyle outside of work to help you cope with the madness at work. Work out, get a good night's sleep and eat a healthy diet.
  9. Educate yourself.Learn everything you can about bullying, your company's policies on inappropriate behavior and occupational law regarding this kind of experience. The more you know, the better your chances of successfully dealing with this situation.
  10. Don't expect to change the bully.Real behavior change is difficult and it takes time. You have no control over a bully's willingness to accept that they have a problem and to work on it. You can do your best to manage the situation, but it's really the company's responsibility to be observant and responsive to the needs of their workers and the general work environment. In the worst-case scenario you may need to leave your job or be prepared for a long hard fight with your bully and your employer.

We train people to treat us the way they treat us.  Knowing how to deal with workplace bullies place the control in you and doesn’t give anyone permission to treat you the way they treat you. 

Researched and edited by Dr. Kelly Brennan for the Terry Boyd’s World Radio Show on AM 860 KPAM, January 21, 2015. Portland. Oregon.

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5 Benefits Of Kissing + Top 10 Reasons To Kiss!

By Silvia Mordini and Rebecca Dube 

A few years ago, I began to notice how open to PDA’s (public displays of affection) people in the USA were in their kissing. I found this interesting and wondered why do people kiss?  Are there benefits to kissing? What do men and women look for in their kissing.

In my research, I discovered there are actual Kiss Scientists who study kissing. They are called Philematologists and they have discovered a wide range of benefits of kissing such as:

1. Kissing lowers stress. 

It decreases the stress hormone cortisol and increases serotonin levels in the brain. Kissing has also been measured to lower anxiety and has similar benefits to meditating.

2. Kissing makes us happier. 

It improves our mood by increasing endorphins, which are our feel-good hormones.

“Happiness is like a kiss - it feels best when you give it to someone else.” ~Author Unknown

3. Kissing keeps us healthy. 

It improves our immunity by releasing antibodies that kill bacteria. And kissing helps us prevent cavities by increasing saliva that washes our teeth. It has also been shown that our saliva secretes natural antibiotics when we kiss.

“Never a lip is curved with pain? That can't be kissed into smile again.”?~Brete Harte

4. Kissing calms us down and promotes pleasure. 

It increases levels of oxytocin otherwise known as the "love hormone" which calms us. Kissing also reduces pain through our saliva which contains a kind of anesthetic and increases pleasure by releasing dopamine.

"Your hugs and kisses are like the stars that light up my life when things get dark." – Author Unknown

5. Kissing strengthens our relationships. 

It promotes togetherness and couples who kiss regularly live five years longer than those who don’t.

"A kiss seals two souls for a moment in time.” ~Levende Waters

Top 10 Reasons To Kiss List:

  • Lowers blood pressure
  • Decreases cortisol stress hormone
  • Increases seratonin
  • Reduces pain
  • Increases oxytocin
  • Improves immunity
  • Fights off cavities
  • Increases dopamine
  • Improves mood
  • Lowers anxiety

Gender Difference in Kissing:

Sure, men's and women's kissing styles differ, but "there are more similarities than differences," says Mr. Christian, who wrote The Art of Kissing under the name William Cane. He thinks the psychology researchers may have overlooked one obvious motivation for puckering up: It's pleasurable.

How do you like your kisses, wet or dry?

According to the study of 1,041 college students at the University at Albany, men and women kiss for very different reasons.  Women kiss to assess the commitment of a mate - is he really that into me?  While men kiss as a means to an end - let's get it on.  The study determined that men like their kisses wetter : to be precise, 33 per cent wetter on average, than women do.

"At the moment of a kiss, there is an exceedingly rich and complex exchange of postural, tactile and chemical cues," says Dr. Gallup.  Swapping saliva involves an exchange of hormones, and one hormone in male saliva is testosterone, which increases female arousal, thus increasing the chances for greater intimacy.

Women in the study rate kissing as more important than men do at all stages of a relationship. Men are much more likely to skip to the main event: 53 per cent said they would have sex with someone without kissing, compared with only 15 per cent of women.  Men are also much more likely to have sex with someone who's a bad kisser.

There are plenty more benefits to kissing...but I am guessing that you already have your favorite reasons.  What’s my favorite kissing moment, you ask? When you can feel your partner smiling as you kiss each other.  Kissing makes us smile more! 

 

Researched and edited by Dr. Kelly Brennan for the Terry Boyd’s World Radio Show on AM 860 KPAM. Portland, Oregon. January 14, 2015.

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10 New Year’s Resolutions To Make If You Want 2015 To Be The Happiest Year Ever

By Ari Eastman -

Happy 2015! Everybody wants to better themselves. Some people want to better their families, their communities or maybe even the world.  Regardless of your level of altruism, New Year's seems to be the iconic time to start your new journey.  Below are the top ten New Year's Resolutions for you to try for the upcoming 2015 year.

1. Get rid of those “goal weight” clothes

We’ve all got some pair of pants in the back of our closet that we fantasize fitting in perfectly one day, or browse outfits that get labeled “once I’m in better shape.” This type of thinking isn’t doing you any good. In fact, it’s probably counteracting any progress you hope to make. If you have this constant image of who you need to be and what you need to look like, you are going to slowly drive yourself nuts. Love who you are in the moment, and don’t treat yourself as a rough draft.

2. Stop skipping meals

Whether it’s a misguided attempt to lose weight, or you just lose track of time and realize you have skipped an important meal, it’s important in the new year to cut this damaging habit. It doesn’t seem like it’s doing much, but in the long run skipping meals can wreak havoc on your metabolism, as well as overall energy levels. Figure out a time that works in your schedule and commit to eating at that time. It may help to prep meals the night before if you know you will have a hectic day.

3. Make a list of the people who have hurt you most, and then burn it

We often talk about this idea of “letting go” and what exactly that entails. It’s not an easy or simple process, and something that can be completely different for the individual dealing with it. When you switch into a mentality that you have the power to decide what hurts you, you’ll find it can help in moving on from a painful situation. There’s something cathartic about using pen and paper, so to start off the new year ready for love and forgiveness, write down the names of people who have caused any hurt that still lingers within you. Take the paper and throw it in the fireplace, and as it goes up in flames, let go of the anger and hurt too.

4. Reorganize your work space

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unclear with what your objectives are in the workplace/career path, it might help to take a day to just completely rearrange your desk, or other place you do most work. Maybe print off some inspirational quotes you like, and place them somewhere you can see whenever start working. It might boost your motivation.

5. Dedicate a “me” day each week

We get so caught up in taking care of everyone else, that we often neglect our own needs. If you aren’t first making sure you are healthy and happy, what good are you really going to be to those around you? Though this can be a difficult task with responsibilities that get in the way, try to put aside one day every single week that is about YOU. Maybe you carve out a few hours to read a book, or take a class on something you’re interested in learning more about. Take a day that is just about you, and prioritize yourself again.

6. Take a daily walk

Instead of diving into an intense new work out regimen and pushing your body to a point that you’re no longer sure your body works anymore, try starting off with something easy to commit to every day, like a 30 minute walk. Create an awesome playlist that pumps you up, get outside, and just enjoy your surroundings. It’s a small thing you can do every single day that will make you feel better.

7. Make a list of weekly goals that are doable

If you want to be the next Oprah, that’s fantastic, but simply having the goal “be Oprah” might freak you out more than it inspires you. Try making weekly goals that are realistic. Maybe this week you will call and catch up with that friend from college. Next week, you can go through your closet and donate things you no longer need. By breaking things down weekly, it can be easier to get more done and then feel more productive.

8. Go social media free for at least two weeks

This holds truer to some people, but in a time when we are bombarded with constant updates on what those around us are doing, it’s fairly common to slip into a Facebook induced slump. People choose the best light to shine on themselves on social media, so of course you’re going to see only the cool and exciting things. We compare ourselves to each other on the daily, so it can be really refreshing to step away from Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, etc. for a bit and not constantly see who is getting engaged and promoted.

9. Cleanse your life of toxic relationships

This is a tough one, I’ll be honest. We can find ourselves in toxic, unhealthy relationships and not even realize that’s what they were until much later when we are no longer in them. And depending on who the person is, you can’t always just cut the strings. But take a moment to clear your mind, then think of each important relationship in your life. What are these relationships bringing you? Do you feel drained more often than not with this person? Are you always giving, and not receiving the same thing in return? Try to look at these relationships as objectively as you can (though that’s impossible to fully do) and decide which ones are causing more harm than good. Formulate a plan to distance yourself from the damaging ones, and once you have gotten far enough away, do NOT look back. Continue moving forward. You’ll thank yourself later.

10. Practice being honest with yourself

I’ve found that the person we lie to more than anyone is ourselves. We’re incredibly good at it too. We can convince ourselves we’re okay with situations when we truly aren’t. We can bury emotions, bottle up fears and insecurities, and keep it all on lock down for a long, long time. But doing this will eat away at you in little ways. It can show up in your health or general mood. Or maybe, one day you just explode and everything you’ve been secretly lying about exposes itself in a very destructive way. To avoid this, start being honest when you wake up. Check in with yourself and how you feel. Are you sad? Are you angry about something? Are you worried? If you are, admit it to yourself. It’s okay. Being honest and validating your own feelings can be so rewarding and helpful on the path to happiness.

Researched and edited by Dr. Kelly Brennan for the Terry Boyd’s World Radio Show on AM 860 KPAM, January 07, 2015. Portland. Oregon.

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Fridays at 11:16, Lance Mayhew (mylifeontherocks.com) joins us.  He is our show bartender!

2/13/15

Pisco Punch

2 oz Encanto Pisco

1 oz pineapple simple syrup (equal parts sugar and water, cooked until clear and then soak pineapple in the syrup for 24 hours)

1 oz lime juice

1 oz Lillet Rouge or sweet vermouth

1 dash Angostura bitters

orange twist

Add first 5 ingredients to a cocktail shaker. Add ice. Shake vigorously and strain into a cocktail glass. Garnish with an orange twist.

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Guest bartender Patrick Bernards from Bull Run Distilling stops by to make the....

Pacific Daiquiri

2 oz. Pacific Rum

1 oz. Fresh Lime Juice

1/2 oz. Falernum

1/2 oz. Pineapple Juice

Combine all ingredients in a shaker, add ice, shake well then strain into a cocktail glass.  Garnish with a lime slice.

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Lynchburg Lemonade

1 part Jack Daniel's Tennessee Whiskey

1 part triple sec (Cointreau)

1 part sweet & sour mix,

4 parts lemon lime soda

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Rum Club Daiquiri

 

2 oz Bacardi 8 rum

3/4 oz Lime juice

1/2 2:1 Demerara syrup

1/4 Maraschino liqueur

2 Dash Angostura bitters

4-6 Drops Absinthe (Herbsaint 100)

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5/23/14

Cuba Libre (original recipe)

 

2 oz Bacardi Gold Rum

Coca-Cola to top

lime squeeze

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5/16/14

 Le Melon Mule 

2 oz Grey Goose Le Melon vodka, ginger beer, squeeze of lemon or lime

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5/02/14

Cazadores Paloma

2oz  Tequila Cazadores Reposado

4oz  Grapefruit Soda

Pinch of Salt

Lime Wedge

Pour Tequila over ice and top off with Grapefruit soda. Add a pinch of salt and garnish with lime

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The Boulevard Cocktail  4/25/14

1 oz Woodford reserve
1 oz averna
1 oz aperol
 
Stir ingredients in a mixing pint
Strain into a Collins glass filled with ice Top with club soda Stir briefly Garnish with an orange peel

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The Moscow Mule 4/18/14

2 oz Grey Goose vodka

Top with Ginger ale or beer, serve with lime wedge

 

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The Coffee Cocktail (caffeine free & coffee free) 4/04/14

1 oz ruby port (Sandeman)

1 oz Remy Martin VSOP cognac

1 egg

3/4 oz simple syrup

 

Add all the ingredients to a cocktail shaker. Add ice. Shake vigorously and strain into a port glass or wine glass. Garnish with shaved nutmeg (optional).

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Caipirinha 3/28/14  (by our guest bartender: Jacob Grier)

2 oz Novo Fogo Silver Cachaça

1/2 lime, sliced

1 1/4 tablespoon sugar

 

Muddle limes and sugar, add cachaça and ice, shake and pour into a glass.

 

 

____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Vodka Martini 1/31/14

 

2 oz Grey Goose vodka

1/2 oz dry vermouth (Noilly Pratt or Martini and Rossi recommended)

 

In a mixing glass, add both ingredients

Add ice.

Stir for 30 seconds

Strain into a chilled cocktail glass

Garnish with a lemon twist or an olive (make it a vodka Gibson with a pickled onion)

 

 

 

 

The Anejo Sage 1/24/14

 

In a pint glass add:

2oz. Cazadores Anejo Tequila.

1/4oz. Aperol.

1/4oz. Green Chartreuse.

1/4oz. Lemon juice.

Dash of Bittermens Burlesque bitters.

Prepare a bottle with Cherry wood smoke and set it to the side.

Add ice and stir down and strain in to the Cherry wood bottle.

Give a quick swirl and pour over ice.

Top with Lemon soda and zest a orange over the top.

Garnish with orange peel and cherry. 

 

 

 

Blueberry Tea 1/17/14

Ingredients:

  • 3/4 oz Cointreau Noir
  • 3/4 oz DISARONNO Amaretto
  • Black tea

Preparation:

  1. Pour the Cointreau Noir and DISARONNO Amaretto  into a preheated brandy snifter or coffee cup.
  2. Fill the fill the glass 2/3 full with hot water.
  3. Add a tea bag and steep
  4. Garnish with an orange slice if you'd like

ServeLance Mayhew's Hot Buttered Rum recipe  1/10/14

 

Hot Buttered Rum Batter
1 stick butter, room temp
¾ c brown sugar
¼ cup agave nectar
½ tsp cinnamon
pinch salt
1/8 tsp nutmeg
1/8 tsp allspice
1/8 tsp clove

To make a hot buttered rum, simply slice a good dollop off of the batter, add to a mug with 2 oz Bacardi 8 year rum, fill with hot water, stir to incorporate, and enjoy.

 

 

Here's the recipe for this week's drink:

9/27/2013

Gentleman Jack Tennessee Celebration Punch

Mix-

4 tblsp sugar dissolved in

1 c  fresh lemon juice

1/4 cup orgeat ( Trader Vics recommended)

1/2 c grenadine

 

For one cocktail-

 In a highball glass, add 2 oz Gentleman Jack Tennessee Whiskey, 1 oz mix and top with sparkling wine

 

For one punchbowl-

One large brick of ice

1 bottle sparkling wine (Cremant de Alsace recommended)

1/2 bottle of Gentleman Jack Tennessee Whiskey

Mix (all of it)

Combine, stir and serve

 

9/20/2013

 

Ingredients:
1 ounce Mt Gay Black Barrel Rum or Bacardi 8 Rum
1 ounce Brewed and Chilled Tazo Mango Tea
1 ounce Fresh Pineapple Juice
Fresh Allspice and Cinnamon Cinnamon Stick for Top Lemon Slices Club Soda
 
 
Preparation:
1. Combine , mango tea and fresh pineapple juice in a highball glass filled with ice and stir well. Top with club soda  2. Put a pinch of allspice and a cinnamon cinnamon stick into the glass.
3. Garnish with lemon slices .

 

9/13/2013

Oriental Cocktail

Ingredients:

Preparation:

  1. Add all ingredients in a mixing glass or cocktail shaker.
  2. Add ice and shake vigorously.

Strain into a chilled martini glass. Garnish with a cherry.9/6/2013

 

Japanese Cocktail

Ingredients:

  • 2 oz Remy Martin VSOP Cognac
  • 1/2 oz orgeat
  • 1/2 oz fresh lime juice
  • dash of Angostura bitters
  • lime peel for garnish (optional)

Preparation:

  1. Pour the ingredients into a cocktail shaker filled with ice.
  2. Shake well.
  3. Strain into a chilled cocktail glass.

Garnish with a lime peel. 

 

8/23/2013

Whiskey Smash

Ingredients:
• 2 oz Woodford Reserve Bourbon Whiskey
• 1 oz simple syrup (1 to 1 ratio)
• 1/4 lemon, cut up into 2-3 pieces
• 3-4 full sprigs of spearmint
Preparation:
1. In a mixing glass, add mint and lemon. Muddle thoroughly to release juices and oils.
2. Add simple syrup and whiskey.
3. Add ice. Shake vigorously for 30 seconds.
4. Strain into a rocks glass filled with crushed ice.
5. Garnish with a mint sprig.
6. Serve
8/16/2013

 

Gin Basil Smash

2oz Bombay sapphire
3/4 oz lemon juice 1 oz simple syrup 
1 handful basil

Muddle basil, add all other ingredients. Add ice, shake and strain. Easy breezy!

 

8/9/2013

Take 3 Cocktail

2 ounces Cynar

3/4 ounce St. Germain liqueur

3/4 ounce lemon juice

club soda      

1 orange wedge, for garnish. 

 

7/26/2013

Orange Creamsicle Cocktail

1 1/2 oz Bacardi Oakheart Spiced Rum

Squirt

 

In a glass of your choosing, add Bacardi Oakheart Spiced Rum, ice and top with Squirt.

 

7/19/2013

Grey Goose Collins

1 1/2 oz Grey Goose vodka

1/2 oz simple syrup

1 oz fresh lemon juice

Club soda or sparkling water to top

 

1- Pour Grey Goose vodka, lemon juice and simple syrup into a highball glass.

2- Add ice.

3- Stir briefly to incorporate.

4- Top with club soda or sparkling water (lemon Perrier makes for an interesting twist)

6- Garnish with lemon wedge and maraschino cherry (optional) and serve

 

 

7/12/2013

Nueva Michelada

1 oz  Herradura Reposado tequila

3/4 oz New Deal ginger liqueur

3/4 oz lime juice

1/2 teaspoon soy sauce

4 dashes Tabasco

top off with half bottle Pilsner

Serve on the rocks

 

6/28/2013

Bacardi Pinapple Fusion Cooler

2 oz Bacardi Pineapple Fusion

Lemonade

Ice

 

Just mix and serve. This is super easy.

 

6/21/2013

Barrel Aged Negroni

1 bottle Bombay Sapphire gin

1 bottle Martini & Rossi Sweet Vermouth

1 bottle Campari

orange twist garnish

 

In a small oak barrel (available at Fh Steinbart or online) combine all three ingredients. Age at least one month before serving.

 

6/14/13

Bacon Whiskey Old Fashioned

 

6 pieces good quality, thick-cut bacon

1 bottle Gentleman Jack Tennessee Whiskey (750 ml)

1/2 ounce brown-sugar simple syrup

2 dashes angostura bitters

 1 small piece cooked bacon, candied (garnish)

 

 Cook the bacon slowly over medium-low heat until all the fat renders. (Save the cooked bacon for another use.) Infuse the bacon fat into the bourbon using the fat-washing technique, which adds the flavors of a fat into the spirit. To do so, pour the fat into a large glass jar and add the spirit, then swirl together. Cover and let the mixture sit in a cool, dry place for three days to one week, then refrigerate for 24 hours. The fat will solidify and separate. Pour through a strainer lined with coffee filters to strain. In a cocktail shaker, combine two ounces of the bourbon, the brown-sugar simple syrup (made by combining equal parts sugar and water and simmering over medium heat until the sugar dissolves), and the bitters. Add ice, shake well, and serve in a rocks glass. Garnish with a candied bacon strip (1/2 slice bacon cooked with brown sugar and black pepper)

 

6/7/13

White Sangria

 

·  2 peaches, sliced

·  2 cups cherries, pitted and halved

·  2 oranges, sliced

·  ½ to 1 cup sugar

·  1 cup Cointreau

·  2 750-ml bottle dry white wine

·  mint sprigs (optional) to garnish and for flavoring

·  Club soda, optional

Combine peaches, cherries and oranges with ½ cup sugar. Add the Cointreau. Chill for about 2 hours. Combine the fruit with the white wine and mint in a large pitcher and chill for a few hours or up to a day. 

 

5/31/13

Sangria

4 bottles cheap red wine (please find an actual varietal, not Carlos Rossi Hearty Burgundy. I like to use Charles Shaw Shiraz at Trader Joes)
6 oz Cointreau
2 oz Remy Martin VSOP cognac
4 valencia oranges sliced thin (don't sub navels)
2 granny smith apples sliced thin
2 cinnamon sticks, broken in 1/2
9 cloves, studded onto 1 slice of apple
1 cup granulated sugar

Combine all ingredients in a large apothecary jar or punch bowl, stir to incorporate sugar into the mix, cover, refrigerate overnight before serving.

Can be cut with sparkling water 50/50 for a lighter option for guests.

 

5/24/13

CITRUS SIPPER

1 bottle of Brugal Extra Dry Rum
20 oz. of Fresh Grapefruit juice
20 oz. of Club Soda
10-12 lime wedges
Pour all ingredients into a pitcher, lightly stir and pour over ice. Garnish with a lime wedge and serve. Serves 12-15 people.

 

5/17/13

PALOMA REDUX

2oz Herradura Blanco Tequila
1oz grapefruit juice
top with Squirt/Grapefruit Jarritos5/9/13

 

Paloma

2 oz Herradura Blanco tequila

Grapefruit Jarritos soda or Squirt to top

 

In a chimney glass, add tequila & ice. Top with soda & serve.

 

The Classic Margarita

2oz Cazadores tequila

2oz Fresh lime juice

1 oz Countreau


 

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